Do you ever stop to think how technology affects your relationship? Everyone uses social media these days. If you are not texting or using your cell phone, you are sending a tweet or posting on other social media platform. When you rely on social media to get relationship advice, it can lead to trust issues. Plus, spending countless hours on the internet will put a damper on your relationship.
Lack of trust in your relationship
Technology can impede your relationship if you do not trust each other. If you are always on Facebook or Twitter without talking to each other, you will have trust issues. Speak to your significant other face-to-face if you are having relationship problems. How will airing your dirty laundry on social media fix your problems?
There is always one or two individuals who are lonely that will lend a listening ear to your disagreements. So, you continue to post conflicts with your significant other on social media. You end up latching on to strangers instead of fixing what is wrong in your relationship. If you spend all of your time chatting with someone you do not know, you will have trust issues in your relationship.
You do not know with whom you are speaking online. It could be a murderer, an abuser, or anyone out for kicks at the other end of the computer. The advice you get from these people online may cause problems of trust with your significant other. So, instead of relying on technology, have a face-to-face conversation with your partner.
Technology has a weird way of sneaking into your relationship. If you read your other half’s social media page every ten minutes, technology is ruling your mind. Sometimes you look for problems that do not exist. If you put it in your mind, you will find something wrong; you may end up seeing a problem.
How often do you use social media?
According to research, almost two-thirds of American adults use social media. You are always tweeting or reading someone else’s tweet. Use the time to catch up on each other’s lives when eating at the dinner table together. Instead, you are looking to see who is retweeting or favoring your posts. If you prefer to browse the internet more than speaking to your partner, your relationship is in serious trouble.
Have you ever burnt your spouse’s dinner because you were spending too much time online? Have you ever spilled something on your computer because you could not pull yourself away from the keyboard? If the answer is “Yes” to any of those questions, then you are spending too much time on social media. Ditch the computer; nurture your relationship and spend quality time with your partner instead.
Is Technology controlling you?
Have you missed an opportunity to go for a walk or bike riding because you were on your computer all day? Do you respond to notifications before helping your significant other with a problem? Are you texting while you are walking or driving? Do you get upset if someone does not reply to an email based on your time frame?
When you go to the bathroom, do you take your cell phone with you? If your answer is “yes” to any of the questions, technology is controlling you. You make decisions based on your technological devices. Your phone sends you news feeds and other tips, forcing you to stay connected. Before making important decisions, you wait until someone replies to your tweet to see if you get a favorable answer.
How do you hold on to a relationship if you are answering more to your gadgets? It is as if your phones, tablets, and computers are more important than your significant other. Try staying away from your computer for three or four hours or more per day. Do something worthwhile around the house or have alone time with your significant other.
What does the Bible say about technology?
During the end of days, knowledge will increase according to Daniel 12:4. You will have so much at your fingertips without attempting to research.
4 But you, Daniel, roll up and seal the words of the scroll until the time of the end. Many will go here and there to increase knowledge. ~Daniel 12:4 (NIV)
Technology is speeding up so fast, leaving people in the dust. Do you know anyone on your job or at home stuck in his or her way? Such a person would prefer to go to a physical library than go on the internet to research. Being a person of old habits is not a bad thing; it proves the technology is not in control of your life.
Instead of ranting online, speak to each other face-to-face and solve your problems. Take a break from all of your electronic gadgets. Go for a walk or go bike riding. You can sit underneath a tree and enjoy the view. It will take away any negative energy you have attached to you. Plus, you can go to the beach. You do not have to go swimming. You can walk barefoot on the sand. The idea is to get away from your electronic gadgets and connect more with nature.
How many hours do you spend on line per day? Please feel free to leave a feedback.